Comments on: What do I do about wedding guests who don’t RSVP?

By: mimegamy

mimegamy — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 17:59:58 +0000

UNfortunately people don’t RSVP like they should. About a week before you need your final head count you might have to get on the phone and make some calls. My two girls recently were marred and I was appalled at the people who didn’t RSVP. When we called them I was even MORE appalled at the excuses we received. Favorite one:
“It never occurred to me that you didn’t know we would be there.” People are rude when it comes to responding. You’ll figure it out but it might require some effocrt and last minute phoning.

By: Michelle M

Michelle M — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 17:53:30 +0000

Ask the cater how to handle it or your wedding planner.

By: max333

max333 — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 17:20:23 +0000

It’s tough. You need to find out from them . Call them and ask. If you can’t contact them, them send them a card telling them you have retracted the invite due to non RSVP and non contactibility.

By: Abbygirl

Abbygirl — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 16:56:17 +0000

If they didn’t RSVP then they don’t get to eat. They know the rules after reading your invite. Maybe have a list of people that did response and didn’t respond and keep those who didn’t respond in a seperate place and make sure they don’t eat since they did not respond if for some reason they do show up. Its their loss cause they didn’t respond. They are the ones that need to respond not you or your wedding party that needs to do the work to see if they are coming. You already got to much work to do.

By: V

Mon, 01 Mar 2010 16:53:01 +0000

I don’t remember where I heard this, but someone’s revenge on the inconsiderate gate crashers was to have someone at the door checking the guest list before letting people through. That way the you won’t run short on food and the bride & groom don’t have to worry about unexpected surprises.

I prefer calling stragglers before the caterer deadline.

By: onelstcaress

onelstcaress — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 16:18:15 +0000

Coming from a wedding professional you always have to count on that happening. There will always be people who show unexpectely I always recommend to my clients to book for 10% over the expected number to be safe. Yes you run the risk of having way to much food and paying for uneaten meals but you never want to tell anyone you can’t eat also it affords the oppurtunity to allow larger guests to go for second and third helpings gauranteeing satisfaction from your guests. Finnaly who doesn’t like left overs and for a wedding your size I doubt you would have problems making sure the leftovers found a good home.

By: SassySours

SassySours — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 15:31:25 +0000

Say you’re sending out 100 invitations for two people per invite. That’s 200 people, right? Have your caterer make 200 meals. Or do what the others have suggested, and make some calls to those who haven’t RSVP’d within the next three weeks. I like the suggestion of having your maid of honor call. Takes some of the stress off of you!